Lesson #3 since the shut down is in the books. Also had a nice chat with OwnerGuy afterwards. I think he is checking in with all the students just to make sure everyone is cool with the current way the studio is running and the adjustments that have been made due to the ‘rona.
I did close out the option of dancing with Z and he seemed cool with that. I’m not walking away from those dances. I’m just putting them on hold until the situation changes and I can get back to them. The whole ‘rona thing is frustrating but it is nothing I can control or change. All I can do is just go from to day to day and make the best of each day. And believe that things will work out as they are intended to. I’m still working on this but it is kind of freeing.
Our lesson was mostly Waltz and again trying to nail down a couple of the patterns. I am going to have to figure out a way to do some work outside the studio because it is hard for the material to stick around just taking one lesson a week. For now, I’m not in a big hurry to get back to more than that. But I have started to stop on the lesson to write things down when they are still fresh in my mind rather than trying to wait until the end of the lesson and capture the main points. It seems to be helping.
I will say for me that one of the biggest challenges of doing these “no touch” lessons is when Mini asks me to do the pattern by myself so she can see what I know and what I don’t. I know it is good for me but it triggers a lot of stuff. There are very few things that make me feel more vulnerable and exposed then dancing by myself with someone watching. I do have an issue with even constructive criticism because I just take it way too personally (working on not doing that). But right now, Mini is hitting all the right notes and so I’m not feeling all that awkward and self conscious when I’m doing it.
She’s pushing me in other ways as well. Not to take anything away from my most recent teachers but Mini is more experienced and dances competitively. That doesn’t automatically make you a better teacher but it does mean that she’s got a wealth of information on technique and some of the other layers of dance. (Oh, I do think she’s a better teacher it is just that knowledge doesn’t guarantee success)
I slept in a little later than usual yesterday because I was up late the night before with the family. So I didn’t get my workout in until mid afternoon. I have been doing specific leg exercises Monday, Wednesday and Friday so I space them out and give myself time to recover. I’m thinking this is going to have to change because the dancing is working my legs as well. I’m feeling my age today.
OwnerGuy did bring up the whole no contact thing. Wondering if that was my idea. I said no but that it didn’t bother me. He did ask us to assume a Tango frame so he could show his couple the proper position for the lady. I was just the dance dummy. When the time is right, we’ll get back to dancing in frame. Again, I’m not going to ask someone to do something they aren’t comfortable with and there is still a lot that can be done for me dancing by myself.
I did want to bring up one part of the conversation because at one point, OwnerGuy was talking about the influenza of 1918-1919. I said that this current thing isn’t like that. He asked me why and I started talking about how this one is primarily a risk to older populations while the Spanish Flu killed a lot more young people. He said he didn’t know that. Now that isn’t because he’s not paying attention – I know he is. It is just that his sources of information aren’t providing that. Which is why I seek out alternative sources. If you truly thought that everyone was at equal risk of dying, then this becomes much scarier than it is.
Ballroom is likely to be one of the last things to return to “normal”. But it is nice to have it be part of my life again.