Talk Amongst Yourselves

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I decided to suspend my original idea because this event runs my through an emotional roller coaster so I figured you didn’t need to be subjected to the endless back and forth emotional reactions.  I figure I need to give this a couple of days (or longer) to let it all soak in and see how I really feel.

No I’m not doing as well as I would like.  My nerves have gotten the best of me and I’m making stupid mistakes and blanking on parts of the routines.  But, as they say, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and I’m still alive and kicking.  For me, it is just a victory to be here.

I do have a question that maybe you can answer or discuss.  For those who do comps, how much attention, interaction, coaching do you get/want from your pro?  I don’t know a lot of people who compete so I don’t know what the norms are.  And I know you are saying that I’m in a freaking room full of people who compete so why not ask??  Well that just doesn’t seem like a good conversation starter.  I do watch and observe but I’m just curious.

I do think these events would be better if we had a crew.  It would feel more safe and welcoming like the studio.  Don’t get me wrong, these people are certainly friendly but since its just me and Z, it is easy to feel isolated and alone.

So that’s all from here.  I’ll do a recap once I’ve returned safely home and things have settled down.  I will say something else.  The good thing about coming here is that it has given me a clear goal to talk about and something I can feed to them to work on.  I’ll discuss that at a later date.


  1. In terms of attention from my teacher at comps, my strategy is to keep expectations low. Of course, it would be nice if we could hang out the whole time and he keep checking in to see how I’m doing. But it just doesn’t happen. He knows a lot of people because he also competes pro so he will chat with people he doesn’t see except at comps or people will come up to him to say hi. And then he also takes time to prepare himself for the dancing, stretching and warming up. I agree that it’s better when you are with a group. Then you have the other students that you know to support you or share nerves with. It’s best for my mindset to remind myself that I’m paying him to dance with me, not hang out. It might sound cynical, but it keeps me from being hurt or disappointed from unrealistic expectations. One thing I will say though is I do want my teacher to be available if I need him for a quick pep talk because I’m just getting too anxious. And he has been, so no problems there. But I have to be direct and ask for it. Straight up say dude, I’m freaking out, I need a pep talk. Which is always the hard part.

    1. Yeah I had some unrealistic expectations at the first comp. I guess it varies with the teacher and how many students they have. For me, just sitting there with no one to talk to just let the nerves build up but I didn’t recognize until we were practicing

      1. Yeah, it’s definitely hard when you have no one to talk to and distract you. I’ve taken to putting some music in my ears and finding a corner to stretch and move when I find myself just waiting and start to feel the nerves build up. Or I’ll try to just enjoy the other dancing that’s going on! I love watching the students that look like they’re just having a ball on the floor, whether or not their dancing is any good.

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