The total disconnect lesson

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First, I should just say that I didn’t feel all that well today.  I’ve been fighting a massive sinus headache all day and have some other things going on.  So I wasn’t in the best of moods which probably wasn’t a good sign for the lesson.  I was working on country waltz with my alternate instructor.  I do like her as a person and she can be a good teacher for certain things.  But, all too often, she cops an attitude and starts acting like she’s some kind of all star dancer – talking about how she mastered certain things when I can see that she hasn’t.  That attitude might work with new students but it turns me off.  I’m not a beginner so treat me like I have the skill level I do.  I know there are things I need to work on but I’m not some total newcomer just in off the streets and you can’t treat me like that.  I can see certain technique errors that she does like not keeping her head up (which is also my problem).  So stop pretending you are perfect and acknowledge that we both have things to work on.  We’re supposed to be a team and I’ll respect you more if you acknowledge that I’m not the source of all of our issues.

The pivot is a perfect example.  At one point, she was talking about how much she has to back lead me and how she knows the routine so she knows what she needs to do so I’m not leading her.  OK, I’d accept that as the truth if you could make the pivot work which you can’t.  I can do a reasonable pivot with my primary instructor and while that doesn’t mean I know what I’m doing, it does mean that I’m certainly capable of doing them with another instructor which suggests that you are as much a part of the problem as I am.  We’re supposed to be a team so don’t put all this on me.

Then, we have another part where I’m just coming forward while she is doing alternate turns.  She tells me I need to really push and drive forward, so I do that and almost run her over.  I get no feedback so I have to assume I was doing things correctly and the issue was she wasn’t able to get out of the way.  OK, so I do my part and now you need to do yours and move and get out of my way.  Don’t talk like your an all star unless you can back it up.

Also, have you looked at the feedback we received in May.  It was pretty positive.  Again, if we want to refine things, I’m good with that but don’t act as if what we’ve been doing up until now is total crap.

In the end, I did tell her that I wanted to put this on hold for awhile.  I’m not really sure if I’ll come back to it.  I’m paying a lot for these lessons and yes I want to improve but I also don’t want to spend my time being frustrated because she can’t explain what she wants me to do and getting pissed off because she’s treating me like somebody who has no skills at all.

But, we did dance together at the party a lot and she seemed OK so I think it ended well.  I know I had a good time at the party so it was easy to forget the lesson.  It will be interesting to see what, if anything, my primary instructor says tomorrow because I’m sure they will talk.

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